Swinging in the Temporal Realm of COVID

Two of the Toronto sex clubs re-opened in recent weeks. Pardon me, Toronto’s lifestyle clubs. One of those clubs, Club M4, is a place my regular readers will recognize. In the club’s initial location, along Lake Shore Blvd in Toronto’s west end, it was the setting for the opening scene of my first novel, “Just Prey.” It was also the …

The Shame Of It

shame /SHām/   verb gerund or present participle: shaming (of a person, action, or situation) make (someone) feel ashamed. There is a problem with the definition above. The word, shaming, has become a word that is associated with how people are made to be ashamed over that which they cannot control. We have all heard the damage this does and how …

America, A Once Proud Nation (Four Nights in Hotlanta)

As we met new people, our declaration of being Canadian was usually followed by apologetic faces on their part. I mean, we’re the Canucks; we’re the ones supposed to be apologizing. The female partner of one couple we met said, “Why are you here? You must hate us.” We don’t hate the US. As one who studies Canadian – American …

Politics Within Ethical Non-Monogamy

Someone on Tumblr, also claiming to enjoy ethical non-monogamy, called me a Canadian libtard this morning. I followed with the obvious thought that I finally won Tumblr. Being I’ve been trying to work on novels lately, it has been too long since I’ve posted here. This was just the spur I needed. So here we go. There is a politics …

Finding My People, Part 1 – Polytix Episode 10

  This is episode 10 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I discuss our experience at a poly speed dating event hosted by Polyamory Toronto, as well as discuss other experiences in dating within a poly mindset. This is part #1 of a 2 part set on finding poly people. Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non …

The Entitlement of Man – Polytix Episode 9

This is episode 9 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I explore our experiences with some of the more entitled in the swinging and polyamorous community. It isn’t all just great sex and mind-blowing orgasms, unfortunately.   Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

The Young and The Jealous – Polytix Episode 8

This is episode 8 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I give examples of jealousy in our experiences and how we cope with it. Jealousy is a natural response to the unknown seas of polyamory and is never easy to be dealt with. But dealt with, it can be.       Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial 3.0 Unported (CC BY-NC 3.0)

Innies and Outies – Polytix Episode 7

This is episode 7 of Polytix. This week, @LaurasPond and I discuss the difficulties of introverts and extroverts navigating the waters of polyamory and ethical non-monogamy. It’s not an easy life to begin with when one isn’t comfortable talking to others, and multiple relationships turns up the heat. Music for the Polytix Podcast is “Sweet Passage” by Frau Holle and subject to Commercial Commons: Attribution-Non Commercial …